Love: Where Success Begins

The absolute best definition of love I have ever found is this, "Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails" (1 Corinthians 13:4-8).
 
If you are thinking that's a pretty tall order, you would be right! But when God issues an order to love, He provides us with the means to do it; that means it is through his Son, Jesus Christ. When I accepted Jesus as my Savior, I learned He would help me love Him and others by expressing His love through me. I certainly can't do it on my own! No one can!
 
You are God's workmanship!
 
Once you make yourself available to love God and His ways, you have to learn to love yourself. Not with a self-centered or conceited type of love, but with a genuine love for who God created you to be. He made you and loves you; now you have an obligation to appreciate His handiwork!
 
Loving God and yourself provides a firm foundation that prepares you to love others and to achieve greatness. Love includes self discipline, taking personal responsibility for your life, and realizing you have a part to play in your success. Operating from the basis of love insulates you from selfish greed, immoral decisions, and the poison of unforgiveness.
 
One of the saddest things to observe is a person's rise to success and power followed by a tremendous fall. Often this is because the person's talent took him or her higher than the depth of their character could support. When a person has a shallow character, they do not have the firm foundation they need to stay at the top.
 
 How should I show love to others?
 
I've established several habits that I use to show love for others in my personal and business life. By these principles I show respect, focus on people's strengths, and treat them like I would like to be treated. 

• Noticing: Rather than rushing by, slow down and acknowledge the person near you, even if it's with a nod and a smile.
• Listening: Make a point to truly listen, not just talk. People will tell you amazing things if you take the time to listen.
• Asking questions: Ask questions that show you are listening and attentive; that what they are expressing is valuable to you.
• Discovering their interests: Become acquainted with what interests a person. I've actually ended up hiring people after I took the time to learn their interests.
  

The benefits of love
 

1. For our benefit: God is more interested in our personal growth and character development than He is in our ease and comfort. That's why we are called to love even those who have hurt or betrayed us. Not with a sloppy indulgent love, but with a love that believes for redemption and restoration to a healthier state of being. God even promises to reward us for showing love through our actions: "But love your enemies, do good, and lend, hoping for nothing in return; and your reward will be great, and you will be the sons of the Most High"( Luke 6:35).
2. For others' benefit: When we show love for someone when they don't deserve our love or forgiveness, we plant a powerful seed. I've had numerous people become curious about my faith when they either experienced or observed my love in action. I was able to share about my Savior and the great sacrifice He paid for my own salvation and for theirs.

It is God's will that you love yourself and others by allowing His love to pour through you. In the end, love is simply part of your service to others. Love is not always returned, therefore be satisfied that you have been obedient and leave any rewards for that obedience to God. As you climb your ladder of success in your personal and business life, take with you the one sure thing that is necessary to stay there…the one force that is more powerful than any other in the world; the source of unlimited possibility and unstoppable freedom. That force is LOVE!

Real Love: What is Real Love?

Most people would love to have "real love," yet often they have no idea what real love is. Take a moment to think about how you would define real love.

Defining love is like defining a particular color to a person who has never been able to see color - you have to feel it know what it is. The reason it is hard to define real love is because you cannot experience it with your mind, and definitions are of the mind. Real love is a feeling that is the result of your intention to BE LOVING.

This very different than the intention to BE LOVED. The desire to be loved comes from the ego wounded part of ourselves, the part that believes we need to get love from others in order to feel filled and worthy - that real love is something we get rather than something we are and something we share.

This is what creates the confusion regarding love.

Real love is what you are - what your soul is - a spark of the Divine within. Love is what God/Spirit is. When your deepest desire is to be loving to yourself and others, this desire opens your heart and you become filled with the love that is as ubiquitous as the air you breathe. This is real love - the experience of Spirit that fills the emptiness within and lets you know that you are never alone.

Real Love in a Relationship

What about real love with another person? How do we know when we are experiencing real love?

Real love is what we experience when two or more people come together with open hearts already filled with love, and the love from their hearts overflows as it is openly and joyously shared.

If you come to a relationship with a feeling of emptiness and unworthiness, you cannot experience real love. Real love is not the cake - it is the icing on the cake. The cake needs to be the love that comes through you from Spirit, and the icing is the love you share with another or others.

If you expect another's love to be the cake, then you will not experience real love, because you are coming from a closed heart and inner emptiness. REAL LOVE DOES NOT NEED ANYTHING FROM ANOTHER PERSON. It is like a waterfall flowing down inside from Spirit, filling the lake within and then flowing out in rivers and streams as it is shared others. However, when the heart is closed, then the lake is empty and becomes like a bottomless sinkhole, desperately attempting to suck love, attention and approval from others.

If you want to experience real love within a relationship, then you need to open - through your desire to BE LOVING - to unconditional love coming through you. You need to invite God-which-is-Love into your heart and become filled with it.

The challenge here is that you cannot desire to GET LOVE and BE LOVING at the same time. The intent to get love will always lead to a closed heart and controlling behavior, which shuts out love. The intent to be loving and to learn what is loving to yourself and others in any given moment is what opens the heart. When you choose the intent to be loving with yourself and others, you will experience real love.

Explaining Love in Words

Love is...patient and kind. How can we say we love someone if we get easily frustrated and treat them with disrespect?
Love is...rejoicing in the truth. Is it possible to love someone and deliberately lie to them?
Love is...bearing all things. That means putting up with each other's faults. No one is perfect. Love is...believing all things. It doesn't mean we have doubt about someone. We should be able to take what someone says at face value. It is trust.
Love is...hopeful in all things. It's knowing that everything will work out for the best. Love is...enduring. That means it puts up with the little things that drive us crazy. Love is...never failing.
Love is real when it can stand up to all these things. It looks for the best in others and brings these things out.

True love can stand the test of time. Being with someone for a long period of time allows you to go through different emotions and periods with that person. If your heart has the strength to weather through these different experiences with your lover, then both you and the relationship will grow stronger. Love doesn't mean that your lover has the responsibility to keep you happy and vice versa. The only person who has the responsibility to make you happy is yourself. While you and your lover can make each other "happier", you shouldn't be solely dependent on each other for happiness. The couples who end up being happy together are made up of individuals who were happy to begin with. Keeping yourself happy is a hard enough responsibility, don't make it harder for yourself by letting another person's happiness be your responsibility too. Love is sublime. Love gives power. Love gives determination. In love, many lovers do what they could never dream of. Empires have been sacrificed for love. Battles have been fought for love. Love has ruled mankind since ages. Those who experience love are truly lucky. Real love is supportive. Love yourself, love your dream, love your mission, love your life, and surely enough, a wonderful person will show up and love you even more. Love is best seen as devotion and action, not an emotion. Love is not exclusively based on how we feel. Certainly our emotions are involved, but they cannot be our only criteria for love. True devotion will always lead to action - true love.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
Love is friendship set on fire.
"Love is an ideal thing, marriage a real thing." - Goethe
"To be in love is merely to be in a state of perceptual anesthesia." - H.L. Mencken
Love stretches your heart and makes you big inside." - Margaret Walker
"Love has no awareness of merit or demerit; it has no scale... Love loves; this is its nature." Howard
Thurman "Love is like war: Easy to begin but hard to end." - Anonymous
"Love consists in this, that two solitudes protect and touch and greet each other." - Rainer Maria Rilke
"Where love is, no room is too small." - Talmud
"Loves makes your soul crawl out from its hiding place." - Zora Neale Hurston "Love is the irresistible
desire to be irresistibly desired." - Mark Twain

First and foremost focus on yourself. Your dreams, your goals, your truth. Somebody who really loves you will love you even more if you are being your true self. Someone who cannot love you when you follow your excitement is not worth being loved by you! If your husband is angry with you because you take time to achieve your goals, then he is not supportive. If your wife is jealous because you have success and she doesn't, then that is her problem. Don't lose yourself, and your love will last. Focus on the reason why YOU are here on earth, make your mission the first priority in your life, and you will be loved for WHO you are.

This is real love. Real love is supportive. Love yourself, love your dream, love your mission, love your life, and surely enough, a wonderful person will show up and love you even more. What you are able to give to yourself, you will get back thousandfold from the outside world. If you are already in the energy of love, by simply loving yourself, then you will attract love from outside into your life. Make love last by loving yourself first. Love Love Love...

How To Create Your Perfect Relationship

You know your soul mate is out there somewhere, the problem is that you are having a hard time finding them! But did you know that the law of attraction can help you connect with that person? That one person who shares an intimate, inner connection with you, who not only loves you, but whose love entwines with yours in an unending and boundless manner?
It is true, although the law of attraction might not be the first thing you think about when you are trying to find your perfect partner, those attraction principles play a key factor in not only finding your soul mate, but in letting them find you too!
Just as with every other aspect of your life, the solution to this problem of connecting with that one special person begins by knowing exactly what you want in that partner. This is the first step. You should have a clear idea of what your perfect partner is like. You should know what qualities they possess and what values they hold, but at the same time, you must be willing to accept the unknown, you must be willing to learn and grow together, to share the experience of life.
You also have to be flexible. You should be willing to be flexible in both mind and body. Letting yourself set limits on your efforts, or having expectations that are too rigid, are two quick ways to create obstacles for yourself.
What does this mean? It means you have to be willing to do new things, to meet new people. Don't be one of those people who give up on ever finding their soul mate simply because you didn't find him or her within your small circle of friends! Don't do something new with the intention of meeting Mr. Right or Ms. Right, but do it for the opportunity for that meeting to exist.
Remember, your ideal partner is looking for you too! Don't hide in your apartment and hope, get out and create opportunities!
It also means that you have to be willing to accept more than you asked for in a relationship. If you are focused too intently on your perfect mate having ONLY certain qualities and nothing else, you might find yourself waiting for a long time.
Clearly the most powerful thing that you can do to tap into the principles of the law of attraction when it comes to finding your soul mate is to become the ideal mate yourself. Be the kind of person that you wish to attract. If you perfect partner is full of compassion, then you should be full of compassion too. Be the best you can be and you will soon attract the person that is the best for you!
The truth is that love still remains one of the greatest mysteries. Only you can truly know what you desire in your relationships, and only you can decide to follow your heart and act on your desires. But if you follow these guidelines you will soon find yourself sharing space and time with that one special person.

Setting Your Personal Goals - Easier Said, Easily Done

The basics of setting a goal is an open secret known by top-caliber athletes, successful businessmen and businesswomen and all types of achievers in all the different fields. The basics of setting goals give you short-term and long-term motivation and focus. They help you set focus on the acquisition of required knowledge and help you to plan and organize your resources and your time so that you can get the best out of your life.
Setting clearly defined short term and long term goals will enable you to measure your progress and achieve personal satisfaction once you have successfully met your goals. Charting your progress will also enable you to actually see the stages of completion leading to the actual realization of your goals. This eliminates the feeling of a long and pointless grind towards achieving your goal. Your self-confidence and level of competence will also improve as you will be more aware of your capabilities as you complete or achieve your goals. The basics of goal settings will involve deciding what you really want to do with your personal life and what short term and long term goals you need to achieve it. Then you have to break down goals into the smaller and manageable targets that you must complete in your way to achieving your lifetime targets. Once you have your list waste no time in tackling your goals.
A good way to have a manageable list is to have a daily and weekly set of goals. By doing this you will be always in the position of going towards you life plan goals. Everyday will give you the opportunity to fulfill a certain goal giving you the feeling of accomplishment.
Here are some pointers that should be taken into consideration in setting goals and achieving them.
Attitude plays a very big role in setting and achieving your goals. You must ask yourself  if any part of you or your mind holding you back towards completing your simplest goals? If there are any part of your behavior that is being a hindrance or puts your plans into disarray? If you do have problems in these areas then the immediate thing to do is to address this problem. Solutions may include a visit to a doctor or psychiatrist to control your emotions. Careers are made by good time management practice. Failing in a career is often attributed to bad time management. Careers require a lot from an individual which often makes the career the life of the individual. Plan how far do you want to go into your career.
Education is key in achieving your goals. If your goals require you to have a certain kind of degree or require a certain specialization or demand a certain skill to be developed, make plans in getting the appropriate education.
Your family should never be left out of your plans. If you are just starting out then you have to decide if you want to be a parent or when you want to be a parent. You also have to know if you really would be a good parent and how well would you relate to extended family members
Personal financial situations also play a major role in achieving your goals. Have a realistic goal on how much you really want to earn. You also must be able to create plans or stages by which you will be able to reach your earning potential.
Physically gifted individuals may be able to achieve sports related goals like being in the National Basketball association or National Football League. Determining your physical capabilities should be one of your priorities. Physical limitations could however be conquered with proper planning.
As the saying goes -'All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy', or something to that effect, is by all means true down to the last the letter. Giving yourself a little pleasure: should be included into your plans.
To start achieving your lifetime goals, set a quarter of a century plan, then break it down to 5 year plans then break it down again to 1 year plans, then 6 month plans then monthly plans, then weekly, then daily.
Then create a things-to-do list for the day.
Always review your plans and prepare for contingencies.
The basics of goal settings should not be so difficult once you get to be familiar with them.

Ebonizing, Fuming And Liming

Beech is traditionally the wood used to imitate ebony, and it must be close- and even-grained. You need to get a very dense, rich black, so use dyes with good penetration; water-soluble anilines sink in more deeply if you add just a touch of ammonia. You must also use black filler - for oil stains, use black-pigmented dental plaster, mixed with some of the stain itself. Rub the filler hard into the grain, wiping it across and along, clear it with linseed oil, seal with transparent shellac if you have used an oil stain, and then french polish, using black polish, or aniline spirit black dissolved in white polish. If it is not black enough, add more spirit aniline dye, already dissolved, and a touch of laundry blue to give the blackness some life. Black cellulose or synthetic lacquers can also be sprayed on, as long as the stains and filler are carefully sealed; always put on a final transparent coat. Dulling an ebonized finish with pumice and a brush must be done very carefully, to get the straight lines parallel without overlapping.Fuming is a remarkably simple method of darkening wood, almost always oak. The technique consists of putting the piece of furniture into a hermetically sealed space and surrounding it with saucers of .880 (point eight-eighty) ammonia. The fumes cause a deep reac¬tion, but fading is quite quick and so the surface must be sealed as soon as you take it out of the ammoniac atmosphere. Small items can be fumed in a sealed cupboard and checked by plugging a peg of the same wood as you are fuming in a hole drilled in the side. If you want to do a large piece, fix up a polythene tent; sealing the seams and edges might be awkward, but checking is easy through the clear plastic. If some parts of the piece are darker than others, seal them with a thin coat of white polish and put it back in the fumes until the colour is even.Liming is also used almost exclusively on oak and gives it a pale whitish-grey cast. Wire brush the grain to open the pores, and mix a creamy paste in the proportion of 1kg (21b) of lump lime to 3.5 litres (6 pints) of water. Brush it in stiffly, forcing it into the pores; wipe the excess off, let it dry, paper it lightly and seal it with transparent polish or clear varnish. A 50/50 thinned white oil-based paint brushed on, worked in and wiped off does the job equally well. Sand and seal it in the same way.

House Feng shui

When choosing a property, have a mountain at the back and water
features in front

"Mountains govern matters related to human relationships and longevity
while water affects one's financial health
and growth," said the fengshui master.

Advised homebuyers to look for properties with these features to enjoy
their benefits.

Importance should be placed on the environment, building and personal
aspects when buying a property.

Good feng shui is understated, zen-like and clean,urged housebuyers to
avoid certain locations which were "unfriendly high tension wires were
not just bad for feng shui, but bad for health, too.
One should also avoid places at top of hills, that faces mountains and
at lower parts of valleys,

Feng shui has been around for a long time, but I've always been a bit
of a sceptic. I mean, how can you change your life by moving furniture
around? Or improve your fortune by purchasing ornaments for the house?

Feng shui is a serious profession. If you look back to ancient times
in China, the emperor was the only one allowed to receive the benefits
of feng shui. The practice was not attainable by common people.

Feng shui espouses that there is a strong link between humanity and
nature and that the way in which one interacts with his surroundings
has a significant influence on his life and fortune - the ideal result
being to attain a measure of balance and harmony with nature.
Achieving such a balance in one's own home is thus of great
importance. In Feng Shui For Harmony In The Home, the author makes use
of her architectural background to provide a comprehensive analysis of
the various factors involved in ensuring the presence of such harmony
in one's abode, from the positioning of the house right down to the
very decorations used within.

Something about future

When it comes to love relationships, often people think that they want a particular person. But if you think about it deeply, it is not really the particular person that they want. What they really want is to be blissfully happy with the perfect person. Yet still they try and tell the Universe WHO that person is. If the Universe isn't delivering, then the message from the Universe is loud and clear: "I just checked twenty years ahead, and the bliss and happiness you deserve will not happen in this relationship."

Why is it that we think we know more than theone who can see everything?

Its Happen

Did you know that if your life was not changing, you would not exist? Our Universe and everything in it is continually changing, because our Universe is made of energy. Energy can exist only if it is in motion and changing. If energy stopped being in motion, our entire Universe and all Life wouid vanish.

Our lives are also energy, and therefore they too must always be in motion and continue to change. You cannot stop the motion and change in your life, and nor would you want to. The changing nature of energy gives us Life. It causes Life to grow and causes us to grow.

Three steps

Think good thoughts.

Speak good words.

Take good actions.

Three steps that will bring more to you than you can ever imagine.

Speaking about what they want

If you have a friend who is going through any kind of difficult time, help them by making sure you maintain yottr joy. Your good feelings will help lift them. You can also help them by directing their conversations so that they speak about what they want. As they fall into speaking about what they don't want, just keep gently leading them back to speaking about what they want. You can also speak to them as though their difficult time is over, and suggest they imagine that it has all passed and worked out beautifully.

Be the conductor when you speak with them, and help them stay in tune with the Universe.

Feelings

You are in a partnership with the law of attraction, and it is through this partnership between the two of you that you are creating your life. Each person has their own personal partnership with the law of attraction. You use the law for yourself; everyone else uses the law for themselves. You cannot use the law of attraction on someone else, ngainst their free will. And when you think about it, thank goodness the law operates this way. If it did not, then anybody else could create something in your life that you did not want.

You create through your thoughts and feelings, and no-one but you can think your thoughts or feel your feelings.

Knowing

Good is underneath every single thing that appears to be negative. If we can know that good is all there is, including in a negative situation, then we will see a negative situation transform into all good. Most people keep the good away from themselves because they label something as bad, and then, of course, that becomes their reality. But there is no bad in the Universe; it is just our inability to see things cleariy from the bigger perspective.

Peace comes from knowing that good is all that exists.

CHRISTIAN D. LARSON said

"Never try to compel others to change; leave them free to change naturally and orderly because they want to; and they will want to when they find that your change was worthwhile.

"To inspire in others a desire to change for the better is truly noble; but this you can do only by leaving them alone, and becoming more noble yourself."

CHRISTIAN D. LARSON (7874-79s4)

Mastery of Self

Appreciation

Why is it that most often vou find that

top-quality cars are kept immaculately clean

and tidy bv their owners, while the older cars

are often dirtY and messy inside?

The difference is the evidence of appreciation.

Appreciation of what you have bring what you want.

That is how those people attracted the better

cars to them.

10%

One of the biggest things you can do to change

your circumstances around money is to take

ten percent of what you receive and give it

away. This is called the spiritual law of tithing,

and it is the greatest action you can take to

bring more money into Your life.